Forgiveness

"Each of us has something in our life that is a source of regret, grief, shame, guilt or sadness… something we’ve said or done that haunts us, distracts us, and weighs on our heart. Breaking a promise, making a bad or non-nourishing choice, lying and getting caught, cheating on a partner, saying something that was mean, not speaking up when you could have… The list of universal transgressions that we all share is limitless. And just as the resentment we may have for another person can turn us outwardly bitter – the anger we hold in our own heart – for ourselves – can inwardly damage us even more as it festers and overwhelms us. These toxic, destructive emotions can lead to cynicism, reactivity, and depression. But we can begin the process of healing whenever we are ready to give ourselves permission to forgive.
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Ask yourself, “Knowing what I now know, would I have acted differently?”
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Saying to yourself, “I am a bad person” — is toxic and disempowering. It’s devolutionary. The fact that you would now choose differently means you are NOT a bad person – but someone who chose poorly in a given moment – just as we all have.
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Give yourself permission to acknowledge your less conscious choice AND make a personal commitment to making more conscious ones going forward."
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Davidji

 

"We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves."

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Dalai Lama